“Cocktail attire” is one of the more nebulous dress code concepts that we know of. As events requiring such garb typically occur around the holidays, this can add unnecessary stress to the season.

Furthermore, it may require that you purchase something new that isn’t necessarily in your wardrobe. Does it require a tuxedo? A suit? Do you have to wear a tie with your suit, or no?

Typically regarded less dressy than black tie but dressier than the average office garb, it’s important to know how to dress for a cocktail party or a wedding that calls for cocktail attire.

In the following guide, you will discover your wardrobe options and anything else to consider when preparing.

two men in cocktail attire

See All Our Suits Content!

Read Now

Prepare For Cocktail Events With Bespoke Unit

Our comprehensive guide to cocktail attire covers everything you need to know to dress the part for whatever the occasion may be.

Although our focus is usually geared towards men, part of this guide is also for women. If you’re looking for a guide that caters entirely to men, you can check out our men’s cocktail attire guide.

You can read this guide from start to finish or simply jump ahead to the section that most interests you by clicking one of the links below:

Be proud and look your best. With Bespoke Unit's guides, you can be preared for any occasion!
Cocktail Attire Guide Reviewed by Charles-Philippe Bowles on .
Rating: 5.0 ★★★★★

What Is Cocktail Attire?

green dot tie with navy suit

“Cocktail attire” is a dress code typically called for in the evening. It typically shows its face on holiday party invitations, but can also be requested by hosts for other events. It’s definitely a celebratory dress code, and while there’s some formality expected, it’s understood that the hosts and guests are looking to have some fun, much of which will be liquor-fueled. The concept of having a good time should be the guiding light of this dress code.

Traditionally, it called for more formal clothing for men and women: dark colors with little wiggle room for fun. Nowadays, the rules can bend a bit, but the most important thing to keep in mind is your host. Ask yourself, “How would my host dress for this?” and make your sartorial decisions from there.

How Men Should Dress

man in cocktail attire suit

Men should adhere to the “optional” part of the “black tie optional” dress code when dressing for a cocktail party. It’s perhaps helpful to think of cocktail attire as “fun black tie optional.”

The actual level of formality will change based on what you know of the host and the other guests, not to mention the season. We invite you to visit our comprehensive guide to cocktail attire for men where we go into much detail regarding what men should wear.

How Women Should Dress

Cocktail attire for women typically revolves around the Little Black Dress, sometimes abbreviated to “LBD.” As with men, women should make their decisions around the specifics of the dress code based on the host and how formal the event will be, not to mention the season. A long-sleeve dress may work beautifully for a holiday party in December, but not so much for a garden party in July.

Take a look at our comprehensive guide to cocktail attire for women to learn more about what women should wear to an event that calls for cocktail attire.

Which Occasions Call For Cocktail Attire?

man in cocktail attire smoking cigarCocktail attire is most often called for for holiday parties, but is also common for garden parties, wedding receptions, and other celebratory events. You should never, ever wear cocktail attire to a job interview or a funeral.


Certain wedding receptions will call for cocktail attire. If a wedding invitation requests this, it’s more likely than not that the ceremony will occur during the day while the reception occurs in the evening. The few hours in between is an opportunity for guests to rest and freshen up while the wedding party gets photographs taken.

Note that it’s generally better to dress in a bit more of a muted fashion for most weddings, as the attention should be on the bride and groom.

If you’re curious about other aspects of dressing for a wedding, see our complete guide to weddings.


Milestone wedding anniversaries: ten, twenty, thirty, forty, and fifty years- will sometimes call for cocktail attire. The level of conservatism with which you choose to dress should be dictated by your knowledge of the hosts regardless, but generally speaking, the more years you’re celebrating, the more conservatively you should dress.

Formal Sporting Events

man and woman in casual cocktail attireCertain races require a smarter approach to getting dressed, and cocktail attire is often requested of attendants. Note that “races” in this case means of the equestrian variety, not NASCAR, which only requires that your wear pants. Maybe.

Other Formal Celebrations

Holiday parties, engagement parties, garden parties, and similar events are all fair game for cocktail attire, so don’t be surprised if you see this on an invitation to such an event. These events are often a little less formal, and as such you can have more fun with your accessories.

Conclusion: Other Dress Code Resources

Cocktail attire is fun to wear, but there are plenty of other dress codes to be familiar with. Are you aware of them?

If not, we invite you to take a look at our guide to dress codes.

Black Lapel Sidebar Banner

About The Author – Paul Anthony

Paul Anthony Sidebar PicPaul is a the founder and creative director of Bespoke Unit. His interests range from: suits, shoes, watches, sport, and travel. See his full profile here, and read latest articles.


Best Of Bespoke Unit & the Web